How to Help Your Child Overcome Post-vacation Blues

As the summer vacations come to an end, it is quite common to find even the most jaunty children and teenagers sporting a sulky look and crooning a depressive tone.  Then, as the re-opening dates get closer, the panic, lethargy, boredom, disorientation and distress become more pronounced especially with those who in the first place, are against the idea of going to school!

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Parents of children and teens who are expressive are mostly familiar with regular tantrums, venting-out sessions and visible display of frustrations just when the leisure time is almost over for the year. But, those with children who are timid and less open about sharing their emotions and experiences, it is necessary to pay close attention to their behaviors,  intervene and identify ways to simplify the back-to-the-school process.

Post-holiday blues, as termed in the West, is a phenomenon that is not only popular within the grown-up and working groups but also seen widely among children and teens. When it is unaddressed, it can increase their risk of undergoing stress, depression and anxiety for prolonged periods.  The impact of these conditions on the mental and physiological health of children is deep and thoroughly influences their everyday habits and behaviors.  Irregular sleeping pattern, decrease in appetite or increased intake of sugary and junk food, low energy levels, feeling withdrawn, a sudden disinterest in an activity or a hobby and mood swings are the common symptoms of post-vacation blues that you need to watch out for.

Here are simple tasks to help children and young adults cope with post-holiday depression:

Be prepared, your child too can feel disinterested about starting school after summer. Irrespective of whether your child took a long, relaxing vacation or hates going to school, the fear of the unknown or nearing future (beginning of the new academic year, a new set of peers and environment) or too much excitement about it can cause a fair amount of mental stress.  Do not panic or be too surprised if you find your child feeling not so up for it.

Talk to your child about how he or she feels about going back to school. Allowing children to express concerns and thoughts about starting the academic year would help you to identify the intensity of their stress and engage accordingly. If their fears can be addressed by talking, ensure to give your undivided attention to hear them out and erase confusions. If the issues run deeper or seem too irrational, do not hold back from seeking help from certified counselors or child psychologists.

Do not over-think or dramatize the scenario. As much is it important to not give children a cold shoulder when they openly admit to not feeling so excited about going back to school, it is also wise to avoid making a big deal about it. Do not resort to imposing too much control, disciplining and becoming too strict if children or teens seem more adamant about changing their perspectives about starting school.  Such behaviors only fuel their fear.

Empathize with their situation and tell them it is only natural to feel a bit blue while getting back to the routine. Do not judge them for feeling bad about starting school. Instead, share your personal experiences about how you inspire yourself to get back to work after a long break.  It would help them to shake off their fears and disappointments and view it as a temporary thing.

Get your children to look forward to the positive side of starting school. New classrooms, friends, activities and subjects that would interest them should be the reasons for them to feel motivated to look forward to the approaching academic year.

Help them set achievable goals, challenges and outcomes of meeting milestones such as enrolling for a hobby class, taking part in extra-curricular activities or sports, actively participating in science projects and fairs, excelling in particular subjects or learning a new language. It boosts their morale and confidence to face difficult situations.

Get them to adopt a healthy routine during vacations. Long breaks from school and exam do not necessarily mean that your child has to be completely cut off from a disciplined routine.  Ensure that you support your children to adopt a routine that gives them the right amount of rest, fun, play, adventure and work without going overboard on any of these. After all, all work and no play or vice versa can make anyone a dull and disinterested.

Remember, to get children look at academics and disciplined routine as a good thing for their overall development in the midst of your own worries may be daunting at first. But, your patience and willingness to get them to look at starting new chapters and reaching new milestones with optimism would make them responsible and practice a form of thinking that would impact them positively in the long run.

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‘CONTENT’ Vs ‘CONFIDENCE’

The eternal tug o’ war between the Traditional and Montessori school

Children arrive into this wide world with no apparent information at their hands. They receive information through their senses in the environment that they belong to and this information comes through cumulative observation and the language spoken by the adults around them. All this information is converted to facts by the child in due course of time.

Early childhood

Prior to the child’s formative years; the first three years after his birth are crucial as he explores and understands the physical activities around him like crawling, walking, speaking, digestion, excretion, interaction and building up on social skills. During this stage, he learns words and also partly their meanings. Eg: Fan, food, switch, remote, play, TV.

The next three years turn immensely crucial as the child streamlines the collected data into right compartments in his brain. He uses his senses to correlate and consolidate the collected data and this is the point in time that as adults in his immediate surroundings, we must be careful as to the information that we share with him. Everything has a correlation in his mind.

In India, we see that a child is sent to an institution away from home during the second stage (3 to 6 years) which is termed as ‘preschool’. At preschool, he is expected to learn to categorize the collected data. The parents seem to be working on a different level; they seem to desire the validation of their child through display of the child’s skill and this translates into the teachers working towards fulfilling the wishes of the parents and results in conditioning the behavior of the child.

In the process, broadly as adults we forget that we are working for the CHILD….

Life has become transactional and our mind mostly looks for physical hygiene and cleanliness as a ‘must possess’ factors in the lives of our children and is totally oblivious to mental hygiene and its cleanliness too.

Importance of freedom for a child’s learning

On a broader perspective, if we need to see the child bloom into a better human who is independent and can aide himself/herself on the longer run, we need to ensure the freedom for the child to do so is also met. Instead, we ensure that he is protected and he has been provided for and in the process, he becomes someone who has to depend on adults to do his basic activities too. Adults find immense joy in being ‘the one to help’ rather than being ‘the one who waits upon’.

Cultural differences between a Traditional and Montessori environment

The Play Home environment does provide a lot of content and information, but it is all driven by the adult in the premises and not by the child. The child becomes a ‘follower’ and not a ‘doer’ in such a set up. He needs instructions to do something after completing an activity. He will not be self motivated as he works out of fear; fear of “what will she say if I do something on my own?” This fear becomes the spinal cord in the child’s life resulting in a person who will always seek guidance and instructions for a long time to come.

The Play Home environment encourages the teacher to condition the child in preparation for display. He would know the spelling of 10 – 20 words perfectly, would be able to write it in a neat handwriting and also know the meaning and all required information on the individual words. Ditto with rhymes and numbers! If he wants to learn more, he is strongly told that he can learn more in the higher classes and is urged to stop his thinking.

This clearly points out to the curriculum that makes the teacher’s job easier. The child is expected to learn discipline and social skills not by observation but by conditioning (which is next to impossible at that age, as they are explicit observers and imitators and not people who follow instructions).

As opposed to a stringent, hand-me-down environment following a traditional approach, is the Montessori environment that provides confidence to the child while the content is present all around him/her to be imbibed through carefully prepared materials and aided by an assistant in the form of an adult. Here importance is given to the language spoken (consistency), the promises made and those that are kept building a step by step relationship with the child consisting of Repetition- Confidence – Belief – Faith and then Trust.

When the process is completed, the child will be willing to work with any material he is handed with and also will be a confident person who will be able to take care of himself and his environment; all this without creating fear in him or ordering him.

This method lacks initial display. The child does not report what he is doing in the environment as most of it is skill based and difficult for him to explain back home. Parents, unless aware of the inner systems of working, will remain agitated and will seek information and succumb to peer pressures which would largely be in the form of display akin to a play home environment in front of relatives and /or neighbors.

The Montessori Method is clearly divided into understanding the sensitive periods of each child, knowing that in the same age group two children cannot be compared. All activities planned and displayed in the Montessori environment caters to the child who is gradually growing and moving ahead steadily. Eg: If the child is listening to sounds and words at 2.5 years, he uses moveable alphabets and picture cards.  By 3.5 to 4.5 years, he will write complete words and will be grammatically correct by 5.5 years. The initial activities are done individually, while slowly he works with other children and reaches a stage where he has moved from large materials to the book and pencil.

What do you want for your child?

Both methods impart education but the approach is culturally different, right from the setting of the class room to the environment, the display of materials to the training of the teachers to adults in the environment and from group attention to individual attention; yet there is a large cultural difference between a Play Home and Montessori Schools.

It is the responsibility of parents and adults working with children who need to evaluate what is it that they want for their child; a Play Home method where Content is of prime importance with display in relation to fear or a Montessori Method where Confidence and Independence automatically bring in more Content for the child.

The answer seems obvious; as parents or adults we are responsible for creating confident citizens of tomorrow who are ready to take on the challenges of the wide world!

Pruthvi Banwasi

Managing Director – Roots 360 / Roots Montessori

*The term ‘he’ is used to refer to a child and is not gender specific

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RESULTS – EXAMINATIONS – PRESSURES

Examination and results have become part of our growing life.

While on the outset all of us recognize that the system is not made the right way, we still adhere to the society norms and create more than the required pressures for our children in this system of education.

The Education system we are used to is based on a factory module which was created by the British to ensure that we have categorized people (class 1 = Work shop floor 1) who will not innovative but just follow orders, the foreman on the floor was the one who will follow his orders from his superiors(just like the teachers who pass the syllabus given by the Principal) This system ensured that there will be a community of “Followers” who will only take the inputs and be ready with the outputs when the time demands.

The same system also created an assessment tool where all that a child has learnt in 10 months will be poured out onto the paper in 3 hours x 5 subjects = 15 hours and all children are viewed on the basis of this performance test. All children, be they auditory, visual, kinesthetic or any other intelligence based child has only one form of examination. This is related to “Conditioning” in a factory to forget who you are but follow what the management wants out of you concept.

This is the same conditioning that we all grew up with, apart from a few lucky ones who are following what they studied like Architects, Doctors and even Engineers and a couple of others, we see ourselves doing unrelated work which is more based on our skills and temperament rather that our academics, and in many situations we see that job requirements are related to numbers of year course or qualification giving rise to a certain pay package, or social life. This demand is created by the companies. Also there is a stigma attached to doing the same job and not being promoted, this stigma creates more trouble and more the need to perform better and get more marks to get better jobs to live better off than others, where is satisfaction in this, don’t ask.

In spite of this learning, we are the same parents who force our children to look at the numbers and create the pressures and competition which will be ideal for a few who pursue their academics into their careers.

WHAT IS THE RESULT OF THIS PRESSURE : We have seen and read and have known of one student at least in our lives who has given up their life due to this pressure, there could have been many more M F Hussains, Dhoni’s, Kishore Kumars, Asha Bhosle’s, Rajkumar’s, Vivekananda’s or people in any field who used a lot of skill to not only make a living but also make a mark in this world, we surely have lost many of them to this EXAM PRESSURE and PARENTAL PRESSURE. Suicide has become a common activity post exams and a few days before or after the result.

The base of this disease is called COMPARISION, we as parents we have this habit and tendency to compare our children with the ones who are better than them in performance; it is surprising that children are never applauded for being better than someone else.

Comparison has become common with parents wanting children to get more marks today than the next child and build in the competition within them to become adults who will want better than their colleagues. This rat race begins in childhood with adults creating the pressure to compete. And they imbibe it very well and it shows in their behaviours, useage of gadgets and respect and attitude towards life.

Speaking to students, this is what one said :

Sanchitha Reddy from JNR 5th Block had to say “I am very happy that I have secured 95 % in the 2nd PU examination and have also got into a college that I wanted to, I am thankful to the college I studied in as there were tests and examinations that were frequently there and we had to score a minimum marks to not be detained and attend special classes, though it was a bit frustrating at the early stages to stay back in college for another class, I guess, it has paid off that we worked towards not begin detained by procuring the right marks and hence I have been able to secure the percentage I have got, my parents did not pressurize me nor did I take too many tuitions or external classes.”

Hence we can see that early childhood is in the hands of Adults and their needs, while the PU stage is also in the hands of the students and their attitude, there is a learning in all for this, competition, performance or comparison all of this depends on Perspective.

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ROAD RAGE

ROAD RAGE

When you got to go you gotta go….. oops!!! This line is not to answer natures call but its the noisy vroom vroom on the roads these days.
Rage means ‘anger display’ and Road is used to ‘commute’. They are two different words and things which have no connect, but if we look around we see both these words connected easily and connected in such a manner that at times it can be fatal.

JNR has suddenly boomed with establishments and big buildings, but the roads remain the same size, it’s tough to alter that position. Traffic and the number of people who move around in JNR have multiplied many times to what it was just about 15 years ago, but the roads have remained the same size. Population has increased with the high storeys coming in and families becoming nuclear, cars and bikes have increased and the number of buses that have been deployed have increased but the roads remain the same size.

Each day there is a new brand of automobile that comes out to entice people to buy them, in all shapes and colours. Of late the motor bikes are designed more for speed and style rather than utility.

To add to this there are enough movies which have superior bikes with impossible acts, a recent movie has a bike turning into a boat in mid air and the movie emphasises on speed and agility rather than safety and utility. With heroes in the movies adopting to show the ‘need for speed’ people on the roads with lesser powered bikes pretend to ride the superior bikes seen on screen and venture out to hamper traffic.

Is it related to youth, hot blood or plain simple indiscipline? Well, we cannot blame the youth alone, they must have learnt this from someone, not just movies?

Its inbuilt indiscipline all the way and in all age groups.

In conversation with a few learned people and professionals on JNR, this was the varied outcome “Indian’s have always been rebels, this is not related to today but centuries ago, we were against the rulers who came in and took over India be it the Moghuls or the British, we have always defied rules and regulations, and went against it, hence we see that in our people today. The sad part is the same people will go to Singapore or Germany and follow every single rule, they will come back here to JNR and park their cars haphazardly near Coffee joints opposite temples and discuss about how nice the system prevails abroad, forgetting that they are the ones who break the rules in our own country. And then blame our Police and other departments.” These were the words of Inspector Y. Nagraj,

Anuradha Krishna, a working professional and a columnist, from J P Nagar has a strong point to make “It is unbelievable that women are made the brunt of road rage, people have no patience on roads, everyone wants to reach their destinations at the earliest, not realising that their hurry actually clogs traffic, and when an incident happens on the road, collectively public target women and it is very frustrating, we also have tons of things that we do before we leave for work, but on the roads, women are considered slowpokes or nuisance and since it is the rush hour we are asked to move on after being subjected to road rage. Not even the police and civilised people come to aide.”

Mr.Arun Kashyap a hard core JNRite says Road rage is all about “The way of life, it’s a personal choice if you want to be a part of road rage or otherwise, you can choose to lose your temper if someone is not abiding the rules and regulations in the city. You have the choice to react or ignore; if you react the display of anger and commotion ensued increases and can create traffic hazards, if you ignore there is a possibility that you are considered meek and accepting the situation in being helpless, but there is law and people to enforce the same, we could collect required basic information on such people who create problems or break rules and pass it onto the authorities, do they act on it or not is the question?” Also he adds,“Road rage can also be mirror of what a human wants to vent out, could be work related or personal, it is taken out onto the roads, we vent out at auto drivers or other people to show that we are more powerful, but in actual what we are doing is screaming out at people who cannot imbalance our life. This will only add to Stress, BP and sugar increasing and the only people who suffer are Us.”

Anyone wants to add, I am sure we have many quotes on the same subject it can fill this newspaper, but a young college going boy, Aditya from 4th T Block JNR had a different perspective “It is unfair to buy us such bikes and ask us to travel in them as if we have to push our bikes, I am sure in your college days you have also sped and done your stunts, we cannot help it if the traffic is increased and the roads remain the same, people who have to do the town planning have to be better visionaries, the roads are dug in many places, and cops are not able to control irregularities, we either get away using names or a few bucks, so there is no fear in us to follow rules or the rule makers, Also we see more indiscipline from our elders, be it crossing the yellow line or parking at any place in any manner, be it a narrow road or a road with buses travelling, why blame the youngsters only? Please look at the adults and seniors who become such horrible examples to us.” Well we should say that there is a lot of truth in the youngsters’ words.

Truly said “Youth Mirror what they see” and hence we need to be more careful considering paring and necessary allowances before permitting a building to built in commercial areas, as it is there is no place for people to walk, in such locations there are new jewellery shops and eateries which draw in a huge audience and clog traffic.

Road rage surely seems to be here to stay for a long time, only doctors and pharma companies will benefit with all the stress building up.

What can we do !! Oh plenty….

– Sober down
– Not break rules
– Respect law and law enforcers
– Smile a lot at people
– Exercise and vent rather than scream and vent out.

SUPERMAN and Ranbir Kapoor

Movies have turned from entertainers to tension providers. The week brought in relaxation in the form of two movies and both left me with utter distaste by the end of the evening.

Yeh Jawan hai diwani which apparently aimed at driving the ideals and values of a middle class family was dramatised to such an extent that the lines between realism and the commercial vent merged portraying the likes of middle class youth as brand babies; Prada, Gucci, DKNY et al. The elders in the family were mere spectators to their children following unrealistic dreams in the most unrealistic manner.

The wonderful days of yore came gushing back when I struggled to dole out a mere Rs.200 for a 5-day hiking trip. And here in all glory, I witnessed Ranbir Kapoor displaying the best of trekking gear when all the middle class youth struggle to fulfil their parents’ dreams and keep theirs under wraps. Yet another fallacy is noticed when skimpily dressed girls were splashed across the screen to sell the movie. The depiction of the story promotes a false motto, ‘follow your dreams at any cost’, which in totality eludes the younger generation from reality.

The audience had a large number of young adults who were shown clearly that today’s route is to disobey adults and follow your dreams, even if that meant being a loner. It was only in the last 15 minutes when the message was screaming aloud with all the melodrama in tow;  ‘family and love is more important’, but by then the impressionable minds have already been fuzzed without any logic marred by the glimmer of money and thoughtless action.

It is nice to be a middle class person in the eyes of Karan johar, but not in reality. Would you accept that as the truth?

The fiction, MAN OF STEEL, which I have very fond memories dating back decades where comics ruled our world and everything was left to pure imagination. The complete disarray is evident in the film that has no thrill of expecting the unexpected and everything is clouded with technical detailing and graphics to sell the story. Did what start out as a story to keep the children in complete awe, lose on simplicity and innocent story telling?

The movie was like watching Avatar for the first few minutes with gory animals flying as vehicles, to Tron legacy put to shame and Transformers and other science fiction movies bludgeoned to death. Superman finally strikes the deal “I will remain Superman on my terms”.

Delving deeper into these two movies and our lives today, as preschool educators we look at giving the truth to our children so that they grow up to be emotionally balanced children with the right aspirations and expectations, grow within their limits but still try to achieve a bit beyond what’s their destinies are.

As today’s parents what are we doing to our children? We take them for these movies when they are in a much more impressionable age and show them that this is probably the truth today. It is no brainer that my son says “Don’t by an innova, buy an XUV as it has more features on the inside than the Innova.”

Our children will grow up aspiring to become the heroes that they see on the screen and start demanding what is not within our budget. As parents and those who are parents with single children, we constantly ensure that they get what they ask for. At one point of time we might reach a stage where we are lost in our world of trying to be the friend to our children but still have to fulfil the responsibilities of a parent.

How much of importance do we attach to what we demand to what the school does at its level to teach the right things to our child and how much of damage we are capable of as parents? This will remain a debatable question but one which we need to look seriously into before we are left alone to fend for our old age with a monthly allowance from our son/daughter who stay abroad and hope that at least come to see us once before we breathe our last.

COW INSPECTORS

A recent question from two Americans, enroute home from the airport on their first visit- “How do you control traffic in your city?”

I replied smiling back at them, “These are what I call-COW INSPECTORS.”

They were as puzzled as you are ….. reading this.

I had to confess that we are a nation where we have only rebelled against the system since the time we can recall; be it the Mughals, the British or the legal system.

Our heroes and martyrs in our history books are those who fought against external people who have enforced their might upon us and nowadays we do it with our own system makers inside this country.

And hence to regulate the speed on the road, we have holy cows on our roads. Post their milking they are let out onto the streets, where they graze from plastic covers to the filth thrown around to feed themselves until it is time for them to be hoarded back to their homes.

It is true that as Indians we find the cow to be holy and we might be able to mow down a dog with a speeding car, but a cow will stop us in our tracks. I guess that is the reason why the police also do not drive them away or punish the owners of these revered creatures, despite them creating road blocks for hours.

Or is there a COW MAFIA that is parallel in this city which no cop dares question? To probe that end, we did a small research and asked the traffic cops how they manage controlling traffic when it is filled with cows and why dont they do something about it, The cop helplessly said, we have to speak to the BBMP people as it is their perview and he nor his entire department can do nothing about it.

Well, if the power houses are helpless, who are we to question….. so increase your paitence when you see them blocking the roads, and ‘pray to god’ for blessings and for safety.ImageImage

The Hindu 13 day rituals

Party to a recent wedding and a death in close family circuit brought in a different perspective to LIFE.

LIFE has always taught us lessons, some, we have paid to learn from institutions, and some by sheer experience where the price paid is beyond any institute.

On 11/9 A gruesome accident left a dear one suffering disfigured and helpless for 2 and a half months between the prayers and hands of doctors the end final came by.

As a culmination to the ceremonies on the 13th day with a battered family, while wondering if they should think practically or emotionally and puts the purohit took upon himself to educate the audience, an audience half confused and half on the fence wondering if god exists and wondering what these systems are, he decided to ask for silence and narrated why these 13 days the family is made to endure procedures and why there are so many methods and process involved and what it signifies.

Rishis and our learned forefathers researched in large and found this system where when a person dies the soul remains around the periphery of the home and people which ‘it’ lived with for about 13 days and there are 8 ways in which we perform the rituals considering that in either one of the ways the soul leaves this worldly earth and attains eternal peace within that 13 days.

The 8 ways are…

1. The fact that the departed soul remains in vicinity for a minimum of 13 days trying to drink a bit of water and hence the rituals have many process where the near and dear ones will perform the rituals with water and Yellu and ensure that the soul gets to quench their thirst and attain salvation.

2. A ball of cooked rice is mixed with sesame seeds and kept on the terrace of a house waiting for crows (in general birds) to come and eat them, these birds are considered to probably have the soul of the departed one and by eating that food, there could be salvation attained.

3. The possibility of the soul having taken nest in a fish or any other being in the water world and hence the food particles used in the ceremonies to be immersed in river water, the ashes too being immersed in the river water to take thesis he’s and blend it with nature.

4. Bury the food offered from the ceremonies into the ground, it’s believed that the departed out could come in the form of worms and accept the offerings and attain salvation.

5. The water that we collect from the ceremonies to be poured into the trees and plants where no one walks around, and it is believed that the trees give pure oxygen and it’s the best form of give back to nature. And a good method to attain salvation.

6. While they serve food there is a bit of water and rice poured in front of the leaf to ensure that of the soul comes in the form of bacteria’s, ants, flies or any other form of micro organism they get to eat that food and attain salvation.
7. It is requested to the guests who partake in the feast not to empty their food but leave a bit back as when the plantain leaves are thrown to the dust bin the dogs will eat the balance from the leaf and if the soul comes in the form of the dog, pig, donkey etc. is satisfied with the offerings and attains salvation.

8. Inviting friends and relatives who come and be part of the puja and take part in the feast, considering that the dead person could be in any one of them and would be satisfied with the partake and attain salvation.

Hence in the Hindu Dharma, these 8 methods are followed during ceremonies and are well researched to ensure that the elements used are very powerful, be it Yellu (Vishnus sweat beads) Dharbe ( Vishnus tress) water and Rice.

The point was that even the rishis who set up these systems had scientific bent of mind and they used faith as a easy retainer so that people practiced it for generations.

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CENTURY – 100 years (how we earned that)

A century…. Largely associated in today’s world with cricket, is also another target of the number of years a human being lives. Those who cross this age are looked at with awe.

In a ritual ceremony a learned pundit described to the gathering how this 100 years came by and what it consist of, it was a bit amusing and I had to share this with you.

Though in a little unrealistic story form, that’s how mythology has always been, it’s said that God or we shall call him/her the ‘Supreme’ after creating 84 million living beings wondered and created the human to control all these living beings and gave him 40 years of life.

Human (with his abundance of greed) questioned The supreme as to why was he so cruel to the human and asked for more years in his life. Supreme was clear that he had given him the 40 years that he deserved and that if the he wanted he could ask the other beings to sacrifice some of their life to the him

The Human begged all the beings and all the animal’s and organisms refused to give the greedy human any part of their life. But emotions reigned even then.

At the end of it 3 animals came ahead and offered 20 years each of their life.

Hence the first 40 years of his life he leads in joy as its the gift of god, a carefree life where pleasure is immense. He builds his character, builds his family life and earns a name according to his deeds. If he gets greedy in these years… Then them EMI…..

The next 20 years was gifted to him by a Donkey.. And hence he slogs from 40 to 60 like a donkey to establish greater wealth and stand in the society, regardless of the appreciation he continues to struggle and moves ahead. Is usually referred to as “slogging like a donkey.

The next 20 years was a gift from a Dog….. He barks from 60 to 80 without knowing if he is appreciated, he is there in the family, more like a furniture, maintains his loyalty to the family in return of the nourishment, always there but a burden to others. And largely in all regional language he is referred to as “Barking like a dog”.

The next 20 years came from an Owl… He is shriveled and half blind and deaf and is more or less sleepless and he can’t hear others nor can he be clearly understood but yet there… That’s 80 to100.

How ironic but if you have lived with people in these ages with all the above you will find the similarity and agree to the above theory and wonder of those saints and learned men who came up with such stories as to truth.

Well it’s up to you to ponder …….. My job is only to ignite 🙂

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GURU PURNIMA -Significane

Organisations and educational Institutions felicitate teachers and elders who have contributed to the better learning of this society. They are the ones who endure many a student to impart good knowledge and ensure that a good society is built on strong grounds.

While the day is actually a day for salutations towards spiritual guru’s who have enlightened millions with their guidance and profound knowledge, from the ancient days of sage Veda Vyasa, which was also a highlight of Friday, who highlighted the world through the Upanishads to the guru parampara.

And the many followers who have followed and continued tradition and practise, these giving rise to cult’s being born and there seems to be no “too many” a term when it comes to the need for these guru’s.

There are two categories of spiritual public leaders today – largely driven by faith, one set are the GOD MEN and the other are the GODLY MEN.

One set promises levitation, miracles wealth and tons of prosperity suggest numerous puja’s and rites.

While there are plenty of GURU’s who are the other, who build confidence in individuals to face the world, to believe in oneself and the right information to practice in life. Who inculcate the habit of self awareness and introspection.

Spirituality and Selfless Service are two sides of the same coin and you do not need an Uniformly coloured clothes to fulfill the same.

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Each one of us have the required intelligence needed to guide our lives, but most of us do not know the way to use the available intelligence as we are mostly in doubt of our capacities and capabilities. In such situations which are large in today’s society, a GURU is none but who can show this direction to the common man. It’s not a concept to get religious or fanatic but an opportunity to share thoughts with a friend who does not expect monetary gains for the help extended.

But in today’s confused world we see a lot of LEADERS who with their wonderful oratory skills and marketing knowhow, create a network of 1 day or 3 day programs and lead them to believe change is instant and miracles are possible, and the multitudes get mesmerized and fill their  coffers.

In one such program a leader was telling a female participant that she needs to look at bettering herself physically as that could be the reason for her husband’s multiple extramarital affairs, instead of giving her more confidence and increasing her self esteem.

Not surprised that our country has always taken to films stars and idolized them, as they do not believe the people they meet in their lives. And some swear by the books they have read instead  of following any one person, hence a Guru has many avatars today.

Apart from the many lessons taught by my parents, one such guru of my life easily was a young girl 8 odd years younger than me who taught me – ‘Never to hold someone so tight in my happiness that the other gets suffocated in the hold’

I am sure each one has a teacher/Guru as such and we dote on them and thank them for the small but useful lessons.

OM GURUBHYO NAMAHA.

Life is Beautiful……in Jayanagar

 

‘Today’ can be broken into ‘To’ and ‘Day’. It’s important for us to wake up to the fact that, it’s not this generation but every generation has been both traditional and progressive. And it’s vital for these elements to be there in a society to grow.

Jayanagar has been witness to this story which could have an emotional angle to it or economic angle. But still it’s true that it exists. It existed always when my father was young he battled the same “Gen gap” with his father and now when my son is young he is battling the same “Gen gap” which I did, So why the big hue and cry about it being negative. It’s there and will be there, why can’t we look that this is how the world works.

There are few truths and it cannot be changed, Kishore kumar still soothes any mind, with Eminem in the liking. Benne dosa still rules while all the Pizza joints make u drool.

Life is still beautiful with traffic jams and honking cars. People still work all day and earn Rs.300 for a decent living while many sleep through the day to spend 300 on coffee from there measly pocket money.

Old houses are broken down to become malls while music has become organised noise. Still we enjoy the old songs.

Yesterday when my dad asked me what he should to for a bee sting, I asked him to visit the doc, my 9 year son, last week told me the remedy after he opened google on the ipad. Technology has increased intelligence and has ensured learning is faster. The old Gen might ask “what about the values?”

Well, do the children of today see values in the actions of their parents? That’s a question to be asked, examined and answered.

Are we?

A tough question to answer, we break every single law and enforce the same onto your child, we cheat, lie, bribe but forward ANNA HAZARE’s thoughts and speak highly of such people.

It is vitally important for bad to be there so that good can be recognised, just as you need to know noise to identify music, you need old school to identify new.

Few parts of Bangalore has stood the time test and has remained largely like how they were, but the trend is fast diminishing and each locality is gearing up for the modern world. It is nice to be the fastest growing locality. But if the government could find a way to curtail more people settling down here, it would help the authorities to keep the city green, clean and quiet in-spite of all development.

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